Shit happens

All those things that weren't supposed to happen, they happened. What happens next is up to you.
Maybe you don't have the life you envisioned or the job you went to school to pursue. Does that mean you give up? Maybe your kids or spouse are not perfect in your eyes. That doesn't mean you punish them over and over again. It doesn't mean you withdraw into yourself. You embrace what is good and you will be rewarded. Things are tough all over. Life can either be painful or a series of small celebrations. Hopefully you can rely on the small celebrations to get you through the difficulties. On the other hand you can live your life through a drunken or drug enhanced stupor numbing yourself through the self disappointment of your life. You can yell and scream through the things you are not able to change or you can embrace the new adventures. You can try to keep things the way they've always been or you can step outside of your comfortable circle in order to experience things that might even make you happy. If you choose the yelling, screaming, drug induced path, you will risk losing everyone and everything around you. Maybe they won't leave you completely but they just might keep you at a distance. They might choose to do the things you dislike doing and not ever think of inviting you. I suppose that might be a good thing in your mind at the time but in the long run, it is just another step towards the distance. Each day you miss is just another opportunity you've lost. Some days you have to recognize the gifts you have been given and take the time to enjoy them.